Transitioning is a good column for people to learn about the harsh realities of life and Gilbert is doing a commendable community job and deserves recognition as the unsung hero who does his best to help others falling into a hole they have dug for themselves and cannot get out (including the suicidal prone).
My word of advice as a 60-year-dad and husband is – life is full of struggle and if you make a wrong turn, don t despair, there is still hope.
Have a religion – it helps you, have real friends it helps and most of all don’t compete with the Joneses and envy others.
The world is full of idealistic and materialistic people and once upon a time I was on that train.
People here who wrote in saying they want to be bankers (glam), degree holders feeling despondent because they lost their jobs and cannot support their family, people who got their degrees in later life thinking it is a passport to the good life.
In this regard, Gilbert and his team is trying to bridge the gap and offer advice to people to get a second chance.
Sometimes his reply can be harsh such as to the matured person who got his degree at 42 and wanting a high flyer job in banking because he thinks his on -the-shelf (self study/pt time studies) degree equip him to be as dynamic/competitive as those minds who are freshly minted by the universities.
I could write a thesis but this is not the place.
If I am called to give sound advice to our youngsters I would suggest to them to take up a trade skills or profession that make them employable and durable eg. accounting or bookkeeping, boring but you got a job for life as every firm needs a bookkeeper or accountant or sub accountant.
Not every firm needs a banker esp a highly paid one past his 40-ies.
For those despondent, if you have some monies, take a trip up north to Malaysian or further north to Thailand and you will see all the survivors and only few despondents ie. they all get on their butt and find a way to make a living to feed their families instead of bitching about it.
They buy a mini van, go to kampong buy durians and bring it to the cities and sell the durians and make lots of monies.
This is just one example there are many others…sell chow kueh teow on a food van etc.
Sure you cannot do some of the survivalist things in Singapore but the point is the people in Malaysia and Thailand don’ t rely on rice to appear on their bowl or handouts, they survive by thinking out of box and creating something out of nothing and last thing they want is to drive a taxi as a degree holder!
So my point is ‘no one owes you a living’ – you should plan your future better and don’t jump in the degree mill thinking a degree will get you a job for life or committing suicide is the end of your problem (may be yours but not your family or dependents).
You need more people like Gilbert and other respondents to instill positive thinking.
You need a spiritual well being too and most important, right life advice from right people.
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