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Saturday January 13th 2018

Falling through the crack – single mum with 5-year-old daughter struggling with lodging and livelihood

Dear Gilbert,

The purpose of me writing this email to you is that I understand from a friend  you are able to help people who are in need.

Let me introduce myself briefly.

My name is Nur. I’m turning 32 this month and I’m a single mother of a 5-year-old girl.

She was born out of wedlock.

I am currently staying on my own at a rented place via mutual understanding with a  friend and I have to move out by 15th Oct 2014.

I have been moving house to house from 2013.

I am also currently unemployed. I have been going for several interviews.

I have  difficulties getting through financial wise.

I have seeked help from MSF but the amount they gave me is not enough for my daughter’s daily expenditure with the debts that I have to clear.

There are times when I can’t afford a proper meal for her.

I am going through the process of getting a proper rental house from HDB for my daughter n me and it has been pending since August just because I’m not under the divorced catergory and I’m below 35 years old.

My main concern now is to be able to go out for interviews and settle all the  debts.

I am trying my very best to get help for my daughter and myself in order to  stabilise and lead a proper life with my daughter.

I want her to have all the securities and meals to grow up to be a healthy kid like other people.

From my understanding of what a kind soul you are, I will be most appreciated with the various kind of help you can think of helping me.

I am still trying my very best to look be back on track in securing ourselves with a roof above our head and a job that can cater with the timing of my daughter’s school.

You can get through me via my hp no. 8515xxxx. I would appreciate it if you can look into my situation.

Thank you,


Editor’s note: We have provided the writer with a $100  financial aid and include her in our single mum support system.

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3 Responses to “Falling through the crack – single mum with 5-year-old daughter struggling with lodging and livelihood”

  1. sal says:

    Hi Nur, Singapore systems is not of compassionate or welfare systems. If you are at disadvantage, Society like to blame it on you for your situation, they never thought that nobody want in a bad situation. Hope and pray for you n family that you’ve a better future

  2. Being a single mum is not easy but I think it’s better to have a part-time job first instead of staying unemployed, there are many flexible part-time positions out there, shouldn’t be too difficult to find one. Wish you the best.

  3. anthony says:

    Falling though the crack is not an apt description, the crack has always been there and the writer made the decision and chose to wriggle through it.

    That aside, I can see that the writer is not complaining and doing her best to deal with life positively, kudos to her.

    And, I agree that the current government is not doing enough on the welfare side for Singaporeans, while spending tons supporting foreigners and businesses, hoping that some good will eventually filter down to the people. Right or not, it’s up to the voters to judge with their votes.

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