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Saturday January 13th 2018

46-year-old payroll professional jobless for a while, feeling suicidal and only received two interviews

Hi Gilbert,

Sorry to bother you.

But I really need to talk to one of your counsellors.

I desperately need emotional support as I’m feeling very down right now.

I’m having suicidal thoughts, even though I don’t really have any burning financial issues at hand right now.

While I can still survive on my own savings for a while, I can help but wonder about the future.

What about the many more years to come?

I’m currently 46 years old.

It’s all these thoughts of fear, desperation and hopelessness of not being able to find a job that are the most chilling, horrifying and demoralizing!

You see, due to health reasons, I quit my job.

I needed to recuperate and nurse back my health very badly.

I was extremely overweight, depressed and fatigued after working long and crazy hours.

I worked as a payroll professional for many years and it has taken a toll on me.

And ever since then, I was unable to get my job back!

I have been sending out resumes and it’s either I do not get a reply from the companies, or I’m not the successful candidate (even though I have many years of experience).

I have only been called for two interviews after so long.

I’m really in a dilemma right now.

I don’t know where I’m going and I don’t see any meaning in life.

In fact, I’m already in such a depressed and discouraging state that I don’t even want to send out resumes anymore.

I want to save myself from all the humiliation and degradation.

I have thought of switching lines, but even then, I am not aware of  the opportunities out there when most of the jobs require a certain level of proficiency and experience.

And to stick back to my job is also another huge problem because no one will hire a payroll professional that has not been processing payrolls for more than 1.5 years.

So the longer I’m out of job, the longer I won’t be able to rejoin my profession.

See the kind of vicious circle I’m stuck in?

I feel so hopeless and lost right now.

Luckily, I still have your organisation to turn to.

Looking forward to hearing from you soon.

Thank you.


Editor’s note: We have offered the writer our professional counselling service.

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4 Responses to “46-year-old payroll professional jobless for a while, feeling suicidal and only received two interviews”

  1. sal says:

    Hi Andrew, you’re not alone..theres many Sporeans who are unemployed or underemployed…driving taxi or giving tuition. Either you keep yourself busy finding temp or part-time job or maybe volunteer job.

  2. xyz says:

    It’s not that you’re not doing payrolls for 1.5 yrs that you’re not hired. It’s simply becoz you don’t look good & youthful enough. Many payroll dept are also mainly female environments. Or the boss/manager is a guy and he prefers younger female types.

    Let’s face it. Many of us are also guilty of ageism. Between a 20+ yr old maid and a 40+ yr old maid, which one you prefer to hire?!? Even if the 40-something maid is still physically strong and able to do the job, I bet 99% of you will want to hire the 20+ one instead. Many of you will even don’t mind paying a bit more just to hire the younger maid.

    Even the current TV advertisement about anti-ageism is itself damn fucking ageist. They have to showcase the middle-aged man as superfit, trim, and get A++ in his previous performance appraisals just to get a job interview. And the job interview is somemore for a relatively low-level job. WTF. From the way they make the fucking advert, it seems that once you’re over 40, you need to have the ability of a high-flying scholar just to be called to an interview for a low-level coffee-boy job.

  3. Job seeker says:

    I want to share my recent job interview experience.
    I had the final interview with the CFO, AR Assistant Director & the HR Director of NHG somewhere in Mar. ’14. 2 days later, the recruitment agency & MHG HR executive called me that I was being offer for the applied position & had passed the reference check & asked for my last drawn pay slip, copy of IC etc. etc. so that they will process the documentation within 5 days. However, 5 days later, NHG informed the recruitment agent to tell me they decided not to hire me because the headcount was not approved. This is a ridiculous hiring process. If the headcount was not being approved in the 1st place, why should NHG conducted the final interview & asked for all required documents to proceed with the preparation? Is this how the civil sector hiring procedure?

  4. jack_cross says:

    @Job seeker:

    NHG is GLC, so the recruitment process seperate from civil service. Likely is some internal miscom there. They also got very inflated job title, so although your “director” interviewers sound very high up, they are probably just jr or mid managers who don’t have the authority to make important decisions without referring to higher ups.

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