I am age 28 years old and my highest educational qualification is a diploma.
Since my ORD in 2008, I have been helping my father at his shipping company.
The skills that I acquired from working at my dad company are only basic shipping skills and may not be enough for me to be hired in the open job market.
As my dad’s company is not doing well, I decided to look for a job to reduce my father’s burden and not to lead a sheltered life.
I want to prove myself that I can really work independently to support myself and my family.
At first I feel excited as I have figure out some jobs which I want to do and in my mind finding jobs must be easy.
I want to work at Starhub or Singtel as a front counter serving people – you know attending to people who want to buy /subscribe phone /tv/broadband so as to train myself before moving on to a better job.
When I seriously start to search for jobs online and in the newspaper for the past three days, I began to feel depressed and worried.
I realised that I could not meet many of the job requirements stipulated in the newspaper or online advertisements.
Moreover, I find that shipping job vacancies pay so low that its difficult to survive but those are the only kind of jobs that I could apply as I have some working experience.
I am also caught in a bigger dilemma – I have not attended one single interview in my life as after my ORD I have been working for my dad shipping company all this while.
What should I do during an interview and how can I better prepare myself?
I am not very good in academics but I am hard working, willing to learn and polite.
I can’t sleep for past two night thinking about how am I going to find a job with my resume and my diploma – mobile wirless & computing is already outdated since smartphone is invented.
Suddenly, I feel so useless as I realised that my ideal jobs are those that I could not really fulfill in terms of requirements.
I have also alway wanted to contribute to Singapore by working for the town council, Changi airport or any government jobs but it’s out of the question now.
There are so many peoples who are more qualified than me and as usual I am not so confident of meeting the skills required for the jobs.
In the end, I think that the shipping line is my only chance of landing a job.
I want to expose myself to the working world again but who will be willing to hire me due to my lack of work experience?
Thanks for hearing out my worries.
A Man that is full of negative thoughts
Dear A Man that is full of negative thoughts
Thanks for your mail.
Its true that most of us after ORD felt abit lost especially when we are green horns in the area of job searching.
We have no work or job search experience and wish someone can guide us through the journey.
It will be worse if you don’t really know what you want.
So do take some time to find out abit more about what really interest you.
You have told me that you like to work for Starhub and Singtel doing customer service.
Continue to pursue that area of interest as we tend to do well in jobs that we really like.
I remembered looking for jobs for almost 6 months after my ORD in 1982 before I finally landed one with Mindef.
I was paid only $700 for the job but it felt like $7000 to me then as it was my first job and a big break through for me after a harrowing time looking for work.
It was a most stressful period for me and I would have work for free if possible.
Like you, I also felt very useless and my self esteem took a dive to the rock bottom when I was still frantically searching for work.
Most of us also find attending interviews frightening and even after working for the past three decades, whenever I have an interview coming up, I will be uptight the night before and felt anxious hours prior to the interview.
The mere fact that we are being scrutinised and assessed by other people during an interview is already frightening enough and many people fail to perform well due mainly to nerves.
Learn to meditate a few hours before the interview or simply go for a short stroll in the park to relax those edgy nerves.
Practice makes perfect and one can also learn much from books and job websites on interviewing skills.
You can also request for our coaching support and our coach will be able to guide you on having proper interviewing techniques.
I am also keen to catch up with you at my office next week for a chat.
Will this be possible?
I seek your permission to post your mail on my blog so that we can learn from one another.
I have also attach my ebook How to survive unemployment for your reading pleasure.
Let me know and stay positive.
We are here for you.