The latest posting captioned Female PMET unhappy with imminent job termination struck a deep chord in me.
I truly empathized with the writer as I was placed in a worse situation than her.
Let me elaborate further.
More than a year ago, I was terminated from a senior manager post in a well known foreign MNC in the transport sector.
One can see their transport vehicles everywhere in Singapore and their logo has a distinctive color and a trademark name – I will leave the transport company’s name to your own imagination.
I was bullied, humiliated and then terminated unreasonably.
In fact, they recalled me from my leave and had me terminated (labelled as redundant) just to prove a point.
I was also instructed to do menial chores for other colleagues (think what a general worker usually do) as well as non-meaningful work in the last months before I was terminated.
What is even more incredulous was that, when I brought my grievance before my superior, I was made redundant shortly after and the grievance was not even addressed at all.
But yet, I would dare claim that my work output, attitude and performance gave meaning to the term “meritocracy and excellence”.
Always encouraging others to do better, providing positive inputs into issues, highlighting colleagues’ good work and finding new initiatives to promote the company’s interest even though these are not part of my work scope.
But it is never good enough when the local senior management (actually foreign talent) felt threatened and there is a always this unhealthy silent cold war between them and their overseas counter parts who are their superiors.
That result in innocent parties becoming sacrificial chess pieces and for “dark hats” parties to assert their rights to power, influence and control.
I also agree with a reply to the thread that HR professionals tend to be the executioner for those in power.
In short, we have developed a toxic atmosphere and culture of allowing fear and envy to spread in our workplace.
These workplace bullying and negative office politics are unnecessary stressors in our lives that no decent human beings should be subjected to as it seriously decreases our work productivity.
Our foundation, happiness and growth should be underpinned by respect for one another and in particular, no organization can flourish very long when fear and rule of force dominate the workplace.
I dare say our overtly competitive nature has led us to this present-day ugly work environment.
I proposed you start a movement together with our government workplace agencies to campaign against work place bullying.
I also humbly disagree with you in your reply to Ivonne that MOM intervention seldom achieved any good outcome.
My own experience demonstratd that they provided a platform for one to air out grievances though the mediation outcome is also dependent on the co-operation of the other party as well.
Thus, like the kindness movement, you could take up this cause and positively influence mindsets in organizations.
Many good points I found in a website (www.workplacebullying.org) recently can be implemented here.
Should you chose to publish this on your website and should the aggressor stumbled upon this posting, I want them to know that I have forgiven them but not forgotten.
Before I conclude, please relay to Ivonne to soldier on and believe there is an unseen force that sees everything and justice will be done.
Bullied & Humiliated
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Early Signs of Bullying
You know you’ve been bullied at work when….
Experiences Outside Work
- You feel like throwing up the night before the start of your work week
- Your frustrated family demands that you to stop obsessing about work at home
- Your doctor asks what could be causing your skyrocketing blood pressure and recent health problems, and tells you to change jobs
- You feel too ashamed of being controlled by another person at work to tell your spouse or partner
- All your paid time off is used for “mental health breaks” from the misery
- Days off are spent exhausted and lifeless, your desire to do anything is gone
- Your favorite activities and fun with family are no longer appealing or enjoyable
- You begin to believe that you provoked the workplace cruelty
It feels as bad as it looks.
Experiences At Work
- You attempt the obviously impossible task of doing a new job without training or time to learn new skills, but that work is never good enough for the boss
- Surprise meetings are called by your boss with no results other than further humiliation
- Everything your tormenter does to you is arbitrary and capricious, working a personal agenda that undermines the employer’s legitimate business interests
- Others at work have been told to stop working, talking, or socializing with you
- You are constantly feeling agitated and anxious, experiencing a sense of doom, waiting for bad things to happen
- No matter what you do, you are never left alone to do your job without interference
- People feel justified screaming or yelling at you in front of others, but you are punished if you scream back
- HR tells you that your harassment isn’t illegal, that you have to “work it out between yourselves”
- You finally, firmly confront your tormentor to stop the abusive conduct and you are accused of harassment
- You are shocked when accused of incompetence, despite a history of objective excellence, typically by someone who cannot do your job
- Everyone — co-workers, senior bosses, HR — agrees (in person and orally) that your tormentor is a jerk, but there is nothing they will do about it (and later, when you ask for their support, they deny having agreed with you)
- Your request to transfer to an open position under another boss is mysteriously denied