I am 51 years old,an unemployed male Singaporean holding a degree in Bachelor of Arts in English Language & Literature.
I made a serious error of judgment in life and quit my job impulsively in Dec last year without thinking through the consequences and I am now paying a hefty price for the folly. The experience was painful and since that fateful day, the thought of getting a job and putting bread and butter on the table again has been weighing heavily on my mind.
On some nights, I would suddenly woke up breaking out in cold sweat and worrying about my future.
I am a practical and realistic person. I knew that given my current age and circumstances, I can never expect to find another job which will pay me my last drawn salary of $4K again. Recently, I thought of venturing into the social service sector since I am already in the last lap of my working life. However, society was cruel and the doors were all shut on me.
My greatest disappointment was not being able to get a teaching job with Pathlight School last week. I had applied for an Assistant teacher position with them and after going through a comprehensive interview and selection test, my hopes were completely dashed. On the day of receiving the rejection e-mail, my heart really sank to the bottomless pit. If you know of any opening in other VWOs who are looking to recruit and train individuals who are passionate about special needs teaching, please alert me or help to make a referral if possible.
I knew a husband of my spouse’s church mate who works in the security line after he stopped helping his family in the bakering business. This is despite the fact that he has a diploma qualification and is much younger than me.
I wonder whether if I should do the same and put my tertiary qualification aside. If I decide on this move, I have to conceal my actual qualification, otherwise employers will never want to take me in.
Morally and ethically I am dishonest. So I am really in a dilemma.
Thanks for your mail and sorry to hear about your predicament.
Unemployment can be trying and very emotional.
Its worse when we thought that we have landed a job only to face rejection again.
It can crush us and bring us back to ground zero again.
However, its only during this down period that we can toughen up our adversity quotient.
Many people have reported after finding a job that they will never forget their jobless experience.
Its a bitter-sweet experience as when they went through the churning it can be rather painful but yet later they realised that it has being a very fruitful and rewarding journey nevertheless.
I know that it is a tough thing to do but try to see the positiveness in everybad experience as you will then change your own thinking pattern.
I used to be like you – feeling miserable after going through a tough period but nowadays I try to see things from a half full glass and if possible pick up any lesson thhat I can learn.
Moreover, we only learn valuable lessons from the valley as when we rise to the peak, we can only enjoy the good experience forgetting the tough times which were actually there to mould us and help bring us to the peak.
We can really enjoy the peak only when we have being down in the valley before.
I also ask for your permission to post your mail on my blog so that we can learn from one another.
I will leave out your name of course to protect your privacy.
All the best and take care.
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Editor’s Note: The writer has recently found a job which pays him $3000 and above and he is very contented now.