Thanks for participating in this online interview about the low birth rate here:-
You have told me that both you and your wife have decided not to have any kids, why is this so?
There are a few reasons why we choose not to have any kid:
- Support from government is not much compare to places in Asia like HK when the medical bill for giving birth is heavily subsided.
- We do not want our children to be “rule” by foreigners one day in our own country since the government has continued to bring in hundreds of thousands of “FT”.
- The world population is already over crowded, we don’t want to have our own children but we do consider adoption. This will help to cut down on the world population and giving the child a chance to have a “family”
My wife and I also believe that living in this world is to suffer, we do not want our children to go through what we have gone through as a human being. This is an “every man for himself world”, we have to fight, lie, playing mind game with others etc in order to survive in this world.
Was it a joint decision and how did you two come to such a conclusion?
Yes, this is what both of us are looking for since we know each other more than 10 years ago. We love kids but as mentioned above, a life is a life, there is no difference if this life is given by both of us or we adopt one. As long as we give him a place called “home” a lovely family - hopefully he will be someone useful and be responsible to the country, society, family and himself when he grows up.
What will make you change your mind? Any government intervention that you think will help you?
No, nothing will change our mind, we have even think of setting up a website to encourage adoption. If the government would like to help, they should encourage adoption as well rather than always depending on couples to give birth.
Many young couples have complained that the high cost of living has deterred them from having more kids or any kids for that matter. What is your take on this?
This could be the main reason for other couples, as for us, we are very clear on what we want for ourselves – we simply want to adopt.
Another favourite complaint is the stressful educational system – do you agree that this will also contribute to the slowing birth rate?
If we will to adopt a child one day, we believe in giving him total freedom to choose what he wants to achieve in life. If he wants to become a sportsman, we would encourage him to go ahead, but he must promise to do his best and never give up if he faces any difficulty along the way. One day, we hope to see him representing Singapore and win lots of medals for the country.
What will make you change your mind about having kids as both of you are still quite young.
Nothing will make us change our mind as we will still go for adoption.
On another note, do you agree with the government’s decision to mass import foreigners to replace the slowing birth rate here?
Before the government starts to bring in foreigners amass,we must ask ourselves why so many of our local born Singaporean have given up on their citizenship by the thousands yearly. Who are they? Can the government do something to bring them back? And who are those people that were brought in by the government to replace us? Can they really replace our slowing birth rate? Can they be compared to those Singaporeans who have given up on their citizenship? By doing so, will we lose our “Singaporean lah” culture in about two generations’ time?
If the government could improve the financial incentives for couples giving births, will this hel you to change your mind?
Not for us but as what we have mentioned earlier, the government could encourage adoption as well. So far, they are silent on this.
This will help to cut down the world population. We are living in the same world and we should do something to manage the world population. Our government should look beyond importing adult FT and should encourage couples to bring in “adopted baby FT”.
Lastly, are you open to adopting a child in future if you decide to change your mind about having kids?
Yes, this is for sure as I have listed my reasons above.
End of interview and thank you.