The Minister of Home Affairs also said that without immigration, more than 1 in 4 citizens will be 65 years old and older in 2030 given the current birth rates.
However, I have seen many Generation X Singaporean females who have resisted tying the knot due to various reasons. Most are successful, articulate and beautiful and probably have a string of suitors bidding for their hand.
I have also met some local guys who are not so keen to date our local gals especially if they are not doing so well in the career department.
Moreover last year, 40% of our marriages involved a foreigner meaning that more locals are open to the idea of dating and marrying foreigners.
We are fortunate to have a 26-year-old female young graduate responding to our online questionaire on why she delayed dating seriously and walking down the aisle.
Describe abit about yourself e.g. your age, qualification and work experience.
Name: Rossana Chen, 26
Qualification: Bachelor of Counselling cum Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling.
Currently pursuing Master of Counselling.
Been working for the past 6 ½ years in a local training company as a Regional Manager in the area of training, learning and development for the youth sector.
You mention that you are currently single right now, any reasons on doing so? Is it a choice or a necessity?
Currently single by choice.
Have yet meet guy that I would want to consider dating and having relationship. So stay single. Open to meeting new people.
How many guys have you dated so far and are all of them local Singaporeans?
Dated a few. All of them are local.
Are you open to dating and marrying foreign guys? Why so?
I wouldn’t say never or absolute no.
Open to dating foreign to try out.
As for marrying to a foreigner - this can have many differences in values, beliefs and culture which can add to the marriage stressors hence it will not be my ideal choice.
What do you think are the issues facing our local guys right now? Many local guys mention that they are hard to please and demanding – do you agree?
There are more females, like myself, receiving higher education and affirmation in the working society and therefore it would also mean that there will be competition between male and female. My guy friends wouldn’t like the idea that I earn more than them and hold a more senior position in the work place. As a female, I wish that my ideal partner has the ability to earn more than me. The real issue that everyone is facing, not only from the guys, is societal competition.
Are there any difference between our local and the foreign men?
Certainly there will be difference. Even 2 local guys would have differences.
Is just the degree of the difference and how compatible in the aspect of relationship.
Besides the difficult dating scene here, what are other barriers that prevent you from getting hitched?
I do attribute my “not attached” status to the commitments that I have.
Beside a “9am to 6pm” job which often end later than 6pm. I am also pursuing part time higher education and I volunteer my spare time to contribute back to my former secondary school as the School Advisory Committee and the Alumni Committee.
And of course the high and getting higher in term of living standards is one of the main reason that is holding me back in settling down and wanting to have a family.
Do you think that our housing policy is one of the main reasons deterring our young couples from settling down? What are some of the things you hope will change in our housing policy?
Certainly! A simple 4-Room HDB with loan of $300K would mean a monthly installment of $1.4K – $1.5K. Which is easily 25% of a $6K combined income. This is exclusive of money spent into wedding, renovation, daily expenses, monetary contribution to own family of origin etc etc … Unless couples stay with parents. Still the only guaranteed is that housing price will keep increasing.
If you are married in future, how many kids will you want for the family?
Min: 2, Ideal: 3, Max: 4-5.
That’s provided that my husband and I can afford.
The expenses would mean the need for higher earning capability.
Do you think it is better off married or being single personally? Describe your reasons.
There is no better off. Both will be good choices.
Married – live happily, meaningfully and purposefully with family.
Single – live happily, meaningfully and purposefully with myself.
What make a difference is how I resonate with my decision.
End of interview and thanks!