My name is Peter and I am 46 years old. My wife and I now live separately and the divorce will be finalised after 3 years of separation according to the Singapore’s divorce law.
I honestly did not see it coming until about 2 months ago. My wife wanted a divorce and the reason she gave me at that time was that she is feeling very tired and earned more than I do. It hit me real hard and naturally my ego was seriously bruised.
I’m totally lost now and felt very useless. Perhaps, my situation is common in Singapore currently as our women earn more than their husbands given the equal opportunities available for both gender.
But the fact is both of us have had our good times when we were married.
Who doesn’t want to give their wife and family a better life?
Its tough and I’ve tried very hard indeed to provide a better lifestyle for the family but I have my limitations.
I have also tried to talk to her to save the marriage but to no avail.
YES, I admitted that 3 weeks later when she broke the bad news to me, I felt very lost and was tired of living.
I cut myself and honestly wanted to end my life instead of thinking about losing someone I’ve loved deeply for many years.
Now, my family and siblings doesn’t talk to me at all. I have very few friends. I also don’t have the support of my family when I’ m down.
Sadly, I m sure many other guys may have similar experiences – that their wives left them because they couldn’t earn the respect of their spouses through a better pay package. I felt depressed and useless for not been able to keep my marriage. Thank you for listening…life indeed is meaningless and I’ m extremely tired….Thanks for letting me vent out because I really have no one to turn to.
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