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Thursday January 24th 2019

Cocky Jobless Male Turned Desperate

Dear Gilbert,

I’m a 36 years old male who has gone unemployed since May this year.

I actually resigned from my Sales cum Ops cum account managing job after lots of unhappiness with my previous employer. I left without a job but did not regret a single bit as I was totally mentally and physically drained.

The first few weeks of unemployment was definitely enjoying as it was a long time since I had the chance to wake up “naturally”. I had time to chew my breakfast slowly, allowing my tastebuds to savour every bit and pieces that was sent into my mouth.

Taking a stroll after breakfast was a norm…. Back then I didn’t realized how bad the market was…. I did not expect it to be so much worse than the Asian financial crisis…

After my “holiday”, I decided to look for a job and was flipping thru the papers.

I picked a few potential companies and send them my CV. I was very confident that out of these few companies, at least 2 will reply and I’ll defintely be employed by one of them. To my surprise, none replied.

So back to the papers yet again and what initially seems to be a casual job lookout by a cocky confident man has become a frantic job search by a low esteemed scavenger.

I have little savings left and soon, I’ll have to live off my wife if I don’t get a job soon… Luckily we do not have a kids yet but we plan to next year. But if I don’t get employed, that plan has to be shelved to further notice.

I really hope that your ebook can shed some light to where I should be heading and give me some directions…. Oh yes, I agree with the job agencies article that you wrote… No response from them at all, not even an auto responder.

Lastly, thanks for setting up this website. I really felt alone like some kind of a freak these days. Every living soul that I know is working except me.

 Furthermore those kaypoh auntie neighbours giving me “the looks” doesn’t help either.

But now, I felt better so thanks a lot.

Best wishes,

Eng (name changed)

 PS: This article first appeared here in Nov 2009.



Hi Eng,

Thanks for you mail.

I am glad that you are brought down to earth abeit desperately.

There is unfortunately no deadline to unemployment and we don’t know when we will be employed again. The journey may seem dark and desolate…

However, one thing is for sure – if we don’t apply and send out resumes the chances are almost zero.

No resumes sent out = no interviews = no job offer.

It may also be good to have a timetable whereby you have a roster to follow and hopefully your job searching ritual will start from there.

I remembered I woke up in the morning when I was jobless and after eating breakfast  dived straight into the papers and internet to do my job search.

I also emailed friends and contacts for possible job openings. I graduated into meeting up with my ex-colleagues and employers when I realised that job advertisements listed in the papers did not really favour me much.

Like many here, I suffered from low self confidence and depression during my unemployment period. I promised myself that I would use my experience to help others going through similar plight once I have recovered.

The worse experience came  when I needed to borrow money from friends to pay my bills and from there, you  knew who your true friends are. Not that I would blame them for not lending me money but during the whole period that I was jobless, they had avoided me intentionally.  The hurt was more than any human being could bear.

It was however only seven years later that I picked up the courage to write the  book “How to survive unemployment” and started this support site for the jobless. The experience was still very raw and vivid in my mind when I wrote the book. It was as if the whole event happened just a while ago.

So, for whatever suffering  that you are going through right now,  use the experience for a higher purpose. That way, your suffering will not go down in vain.

Fortunately, it was  from one of the many  known contacts that I managed to find a part time job paying me $6.50 an hour working at a family service centre. The pay was nothing to shout about  but it was a big step out of unemployment. It was of course a far cry from the $4000 a month that I  earned from my previous insurance job.

It was a slow process trust me and my patience was tested to the limits during that awful period.

Nevertheless, I realised that the whole process had sharpened my adversity quotient and  could feel that my inner man was really toughened up.

Hopefully, the same thing happened to you.

Take care and never give up.





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8 Responses to “Cocky Jobless Male Turned Desperate”

  1. James says:

    I am working in a recruitment firm. Send me your resume to see if i can help in placing you.

  2. Samefate says:


    It would be good if you could provide us your email id so that we can forward them to you. To Eng, you just gotta hang tough and let the storm blow over. I am in the same shoes.

  3. Gilbert says:


    I can forward you the email address if you want.


  4. sp tan says:

    Dear Gilbert
    Suggest that you also forward all the CV from those who are looking for jobs to people like James who works in a
    recruitment firm. Do you hv contact with more of these people from the HR/recruitment line? It is very kind of James who is willing to help the unemployed.

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