I followed the latest Jack Neo’s sex scandal with a heavy heart.
I also cried when I saw how harassed the beleaguered couple was when photographers went up to the press conference stage e to take pictures of the poor couple from all angles. It was humility at its lowest point. Irene Neo, Jack’s wife, reportedly fainted after the short press conference. It will take immense effort on both the couple’s part to renew and continue their marital relationship after such a massive onslaught on their privacy.
To rub more salt into his fragile wound, many people have compared the number of girls that Jack have bedded with those of golf legend Tiger Wood and even labeling him “Oh Jack you tiger!” Such cheap taunts are certainly uncalled for.
It showed how merciless the media can be if you are a celebrity caught in the wrong limelight. More girls coming forward to expose Jack’s mischief also didn’t help the famed film director. More importantly, Jack’s wholesome image is forever tarnished from now on and one wonders if his films will be continued to be cherished from now on.
The media coverage on the scandal is also maddening. Every day, there will be a few articles on the latest on Jack and his new mistresses. Not since the news on terrorist Mas Selamat’s escape did we have so much spotlight focused on one individual and his exploits. Some of Asiaone’s articles on the scandal were viewed in the tens of thousands daily!
Netizens were also divided on whether Jack should be forgiven or forsaken. The gravity of the situation was heightened when it was reported by Sin Min Daily that he has up to eleven girls on his plate. Jack was smart not to answer to such such gossipy news. Naturally, more women chose not to forgive Jack than men. Some even will choose to boycott his movies from now on. I guess this is an individual decision that each of us have to make for ourselves.
The intense media spotlight must have being very strenuous on Jack and his family. One wonders if he is of a lesser mortal being, will be be subjected to so much attention? Probably not.
I believe many married people have cheated behind their spouses’ back. The mushrooming of massage parlours and karaoke lounges and executives working on overseas trips have subjected men to much sexual temptation. It takes a very disciplined strong man to resist sexual temptation as there is the belief that what he does abroad is unseen by anyone. Many wives have also turn a blind eye to such overseas tryst so long their husbands take the necessary precaution and not commit their emotion into such dangerous liaisons.
We may also be greatly influenced from those Hollywood movies and sitcoms that are aired almost daily on our televison. We have “Desperate Housewives” – a sitcom series heavily laced with extra marital affairs. It is almost unnatural not to have a fling on that popular US sitcom. Our young women are also getting very modern nowadays and sex before marriage is becoming very common for them. It is no longer a shameful thing if you marry because you are pregnant. I have seen so many of such marriages these days.
I also remembered when I did my reservist duties many years ago, many of my army buddies would rush into town to look for women during the short rest and recreation (R & R) break. To them, it was time to have some fun and it seemed right after “suffering” for many days in the field. I decided not to join them due to religious reason
Our country also has the unfortunate reputation of having one of the lowest sex frequency in the world for married people. Many of my male friends told me that getting sex from their wives is like striking 4D. Has work stress prevented many of our couples from having fun in the bedroom that they have to seek sexual pleasure outside of their marriages? Are our over-woked ambitious wives to be blamed here?
The whole episode also reminded me of a few of my friends who lost their marriages when they were caught committing extra marital affairs. Naturally, most of them were men. Most of them confessed to me that they got very little sex from their spouses and thus have to seek sexual fulfillment elsewhere.
I am not saying that women are entirely to be blamed here for our men’s sexual tyrst outside of marriage. However, I have known women who use sex as a weapon to control the whole relationship. If the husband fails to give in to the woman on certain issue, sex will be withheld and a power struggle soon ensues. Few men will beg their wives for sex out of pride and ego. Sex that is not mutually appreciated is also boring and unfulfilling. After a while, most men will explore having sex outside marriage.
A marriage without sex is like having a pot of plant without adding on fertiliser and water on a regular basis. The relationship like the potted plant will soon die off.
Psychologists have all along advised that for man sex is like food – an item that is on the basic list of the Maslow’s hierarchy of need. Women can do away with sex as it is something unimportant to them. By now, you should have heard of the slogan: “Man gives love to get sex and woman gives sex to get love.” This shows how different we are in our biological makeup.
Jack was lucky that his wife Irene stood by him even after he has committed a string of affairs. She has every right to divorce him but didn’t. For that, she earned my respect and I think many Singaporeans who are following the scandal closely. Most women will divorce their husbands if they were caught committing adultery. The trust is gone and it is a stab to a woman’s self esteem when her husband was caught enjoying another person’s body. Most men will also not forgive their wives if the same thing happened to them.
I sincerely hope that the media will allow Jack and his family to sort out their own private life from now on. Enough has being said both online and offline to last a long time. It is time for our press to lay off the couple and allow them the time and space to grieve and heal. Hopefully, over time, we will all enjoy Jack for his movies than his scandals.
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Why is the focus only on Jack? How about the slut Wendy. After what she did, pursuing a married men, claiming that she love him? really .. love his money more likely, then the gall to confront the wife, bring her whole family to confront JN… hello she is the SLUT in CAPITAL letters. is she expecting JN to leave his family for her.. she got to be kidding… what does she have… she is so shallow… and is probably only good for f..king as she confirms it by telling stories of how many time she is f..king JN?
Typical slut.. the other women.. why are they only coming out now… to also get publicity? most likely..
Forgive JN.. ? why should JN seek forgiveness from anyone? especially not the women around whom you say are not forgiving him. Most important is that his wife has forgiven him. JN also doesn’t owe any explanation to anyone. The media should go check the background of the sluts.. instead..of just focussing on JN.. it takes two to clap and oviously the slut enjoys being f..king to the extend of making her self famous? at the expense of JN
Jack should give himself a break. Don’t talk to the media. He doesn’t own anyone other then his immediate family the apology. It’s a stupid move to have a press conference.